The other woman: 5 reasons she's with your man

   

A kiss may never tell you the story of another woman. But if it is there, how it got there will be a mystery to you.

  Is the other woman taking center stage in the life of your man? And do you know who she is? Call it an act of infidelity on the part of your husband or boyfriend who when asked, surprisingly, might deny having an affair.

 But if your instinct tells you there is someone else, then you may need to dig deeper, to find out if there is an emotional affair going on or it's mere friendship. You need to perfectly understand the whole situation first before you decide head on to ending your affair with him.

Because if truly there is an on-going love affair, then you most likely have an unseen competition who operates behind the scene. 

The other woman has her convictions in place and is holding her head up high. She believes she is the only woman in your man's life-because he told her that, or something similar to convince her enough to be with him. 

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You do not know her but may have met her by chance, and didn't know that she was the woman that entered the same lift with you a while ago.  But perhaps she had stopped you along the way to simply ask for the direction of a street.

But wait, what if she was the waitress that served your morning coffee at the cafeteria? Or the kind sales girl with the innocent-looking face that smiled at you at the supermarket? As frightening as this may sound,

the other woman might just be your next door neighbor!

Yes, the other woman is a woman with many faces which you may have seen but not recognized. And that is because she lingers in the background of your life and might even not be aware of your very existence.

She met your man and it simply was the best thing to happen to her. Meeting him seemed to have opened up a whole new world of love and romance for her. There are many reasons why another woman would indulge herself in a relationship with a man that is already married or has a girlfriend. 

Her motivations are real and borders on the fact that she wants to have a relationship with someone. She wants a man to make her his woman and give her the feeling that she may have not been receiving in a while. But is that all? in this post you will learn,

-What motivates her and,

-Why she is with him.

The other woman doesn't come into the life of an attached man just out of a willingness to do so. This is a no brainer, because the motivating factor behind her decision to be with him, comes from making certain considerations. 

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The most common of these considerations being that she wants a romantic attachment with someone. However this romantic involvement comes with a certain degree of reluctance to get involved at the beginning. This is because, 

-Even though she has feelings for him, her gut instinct tells her something isn't right.

-She wants to be sure she is doing the right thing by getting involved.

-She wants to really know about him before getting involved.

What motivates her

Loneliness

Loneliness which is a part of being single and unattached is strong. Friends are okay and can be of great company to her. But the need to have that special someone that she can call her own, and constantly relate with is what she wants. 

 The loneliness of being without a man becomes all too inappropriate for her. And while she may not have serious considered dating, hooking up with an ex was the last thing she wants. She is not interested in the past anymore but wants to move on and find someone new.

She has been dumped so many times

She's not a pessimist that believes in giving up after being dumped once or twice or so many times. She believes Mr. Right is still out there, so a string of failed relationships won't get her to stop searching. But this time she's made a promise that, if she finds a guy, she's not going to let him go. 

She craves attention.

She still feels the need to be the center of attention. This is what she really craves. But she doesn't know how it will happen and when she will get noticed. An invitation from a friend to a party opens the way for her to met someone.

 There she meets your man, they start talking to each other and eventually find out they have so many things in common. They pick up interest and gradually connect.

 She only wants fun

If she hasn't been lucky with having a stable relationship, now she's not looking in that direction anymore. All she wants is to have fun and get laid. And she may not be bothered if he's a married man or not. She does want a serious relation, only occasional encounters.

She wants a life partner

Her biological clock is ticking and she feels its time to settle down. She is bothered about finding a decent man until she bumps into a man- your man, who it seems,
has all the qualities that she has been looking for in a man. Her plans of settling down is complete. she is only waiting for a marriage proposal.

She wants to try

She wants to try even if the need to hold back is somewhat strong. What she wants to do by holding back, is to make sure she is making the right decision hooking up with him. But indecision takes the better of her, and instead of losing her chances of being with him, she accepts and hooks up with him..

Why she's with him

You might be surprised that the other woman is hanging out with your man for the very same reasons that brought you and your man together. Call her a home breaker of some sort. All she wants is the  security of being with someone who cherishes and care about her feelings. If your man is a provider of such attention then below are five reasons why she is with him

He makes her feel good

Finally someone is making her feel good and giving her some loving attention and making her feel life's energy in fulfilling ways. And it's just too good to leave to someone else. She want's to hang on to it as long as it lasts.

She feels complete 

He makes the world an enjoyable place for her. And just being with him is enough to make her want to do incredible things, take on impossible challenges and above all, believe in herself again. This is something she hasn't felt in a long time.

He hasn't told her he's with someone else

When she's with him, she doesn't suspect anything because he keeps to appointments, stays with her a lot, and doesn't make her feel suspicious that something is wrong. Above all, he hasn't told her, that he's with someone

But even if he did tell her, he makes her believe that the relationship with him isn't what it used to be and,

a)  That both of you will soon go your separate ways.

b) That for long, physical intimacy has been completely absent.

c) That he doesn't feel anything for you anymore.

d) That he doesn't love you anymore.

e) That in her he has found a reason to cherish life.

f) That she makes him feel alive and loved.

Some of these facts might just be true, but not all. But the excitement and the thrill of being with her is so strong that he can't let go of her or tell her he's with you. And on her part, not knowing about you is comforting to her. She believes she is the with a man, her own man and hopes that,

he will take her seriously enough to make a fulltime commitment. But a full time commitment comes with taking serious responsibilities to make the relationship official. And for the fact that he is already with you, he may be blocked into taking further steps to cement his relationship with her. This eventually raises questions about which way the relationship is heading to.

He was extremely insistent

Sometimes hooking up with a man comes with not having the power to say no.  This is due to the friendship that has developed between the man and the woman who may be co-workers closely working together. When such closeness develops due to a certain kind of attraction, the man may use it to make advance at the woman. 

And even though the woman knows all too well that he is a married man or has a an on-going relationship, insistence on the part of the man can make the woman to accept to be the other woman.

Her feelings are real

This is something she can't deny. The feeling is real and it's the first time she has ever had such a strong feeling for a guy. This feeling is too good to let go and she is willing to hang on to it as long as it lasts. She cares less about what will happen after the affair. 

The feeling is simply good and is the result of the attention he is giving her, and the constant care he has for her well-being. For once someone is really making an effort to make her happy and she loves this attention.

Final Consideration

It might come to you as a surprise, but the other woman isn't a monster seeking out revenge for a previously failed relationship. She may not even know that you exist. Her primary motive is simply to find a loving man who will give her the attention she needs. 

In this she, isn't at fault because her needs are being met. What she wishes as the relationship progresses, is for total commitment. But here is where the difficulties begin and where she realizes that the man might simply be against having a serious commitment.