7 relationship breakup signs you need to watch

When statistics show that  75% of women and 30% of men worry about their relationships along side their partners, you need to find out what's going wrong with yours.

Are you seeing signs in your relationship that hint towards a breakup? If so you might be worried about how your relationship alongside your partner is going. In this you are not alone.

Now you are fully aware of the fact that, you and your partner are in this relationship together. However, there are strong signals that indicate not all is going well. And for sure, you are beginning to have doubts about both of you having a strong future together.

But such is the nature of relationships.

After all, it's about two people, each with their individual differences, coming together for the sake of the love they have for each other.  This love alone should be enough to make them live alongside each other till eternity.

But this is not always the case as you will come to learn shortly. Why?

Relationships are built on love, trust and the consideration both of you have for each other. While love has united you to your partner, there are other aspects of the relationship that must be built alongside that love and help nourish it.

If those other aspects or ingredients that are necessary are missing or lacking, then you need to worry about the state of your relationship.

Here are seven relationship breakup signs you should pay close attention too.

1)  You never get a chance to be heard

Relationship is about people coming together and communicating with each other. This means that everyone in the relationship has a voice that must be heard. As much as you want to voice your opinion and be heard , you never really y get a chance to do so.

The reason is quite simple. Your partner may cut you off  when you are about to saying something, they make consider your opinions as not suggestive enough or they may not be paying too much attention to what you have to say.


2) Does your decision count?


The tendency to make any relationship work is also about taking decisions together. Both partners agree that nothing can be done without coming to a common agreement. If one partner has the upper hand in making decisions, it means that the other partner willingly goes along with whatever decision is taken as being good for both partners.

Where this is not the case, then you need to see if your decisions ever count in the relationship at all or it's always your partner who decides everything and has the last say.

3) You are not being appreciated enough

You are doing your best, making great efforts because you love what you have and you are doing your best both for yourself, and for your partner. But what are you getting in return for your efforts?

You don't need much, just a little encouragement, some hug, a kiss from time to time from your partner to show they appreciate your efforts.

Are your efforts being rewarded or overlooked? Is your partner constantly making you feel like you are not doing enough and that you should try harder and do better? This can be stressful and nerve wracking.

4) You are constantly being watched or controlled

Do you find yourself constantly living like you are being monitored all the time? Well sometimes things do look that way. Some people have the tendency of watching every move their partners make, from how they eat, how they sleep, to how they dress and so on.


Doing this can get your partner seeing bits and pieces of your life they may not be comfortable with. If they have the tendency of being too vocal they may point out what you do as some kind of mistake you need to correct. Eventually they may find too many faults enough for them to complain about every time.


5) It a discussion, then an argument


Having discussions is part of what being together is all about. No relationship is smooth running. From time to time there will be minor discussions which may lead to little disagreements. But these minor differences can be settled peacefully.

However, when such discussions constantly turn into heated arguments and quarrels then what happens next is that such moments can be used as opportunities to vent frustrations, regrets and a venue to throw cuss words at each other.


6) It's suppose to be  a question, but it sounds like Police  interrogation


Too many questions being asked can sound like someone being too nosy and wanting to know everything. And of course questions may seem like you are under police interrogation. If your partner has such habits of constantly questioning you, then be ready to answer questions you have no answers to.


That's because they'll want to know why you did this and that; who you were talking to on the phone and why behind their back. Where you went and whom you were with and what you did and so on. It's going to be a constant you'll be seeing once they feel worried you are up to something.


7) Do they support you?

You need to live a peaceful relationship. And that means, knowing that your partner supports you fully. It means a lot to you to know you can count on them in your most trying and difficult moments. That's because when you are not feeling strong about yourself, or you need someone to listen to you, you need to know that they can be counted on.

You need them to support you all the way. This is how you derive satisfaction from the relationship. And it should far outweigh the ups and downs that commonly surfaces. Do you see yourself living a comforting and supportive relationship alongside your partner or your case is the opposite?

While you love your partner, finding yourself in a relationship where you are constantly not being listened to, where you make little or no decisions and where every discussion turns into heated quarrels cannot be healthy for you. These signs for most people when it is evident, can create the conditions for a breakup. They decide they've had enough and want to end the relationship.


What about you?

You may think differently and may want to do something to turn things around. If you  have not yet gone to your best friend asking them what you should do, here are a few things you can try if you want to save the situation.


What you can do

So you love your partner since they are the best thing that has happened to you in years. Where love was missing, where you lack guidance, support, comfort and peace, they came into your life with this complete package, and it was a very promising package.

But now the relationship the way you see it, isn't the same anymore. It could soon. Given the love you have for your partner, you simply feel there is a way to settle things out to avoid a breakup.

Here are five things you can try to do to help the situation.


a) You also have rights, let them know that

If you have been keeping quiet about expressing your thoughts, feelings and opinions, now is the time to step out and make a change. You have rights too and must exercise those right. Your partner has always interrupted you during discussions, now is the time to change all that.

Let them know that you also have the right to express your thoughts and opinions too. Should you allow interruption, when you don't allow your voice to be heard, you may be giving the impression that you have nothing to contribute or you that you don't know what to say.

b) Be A decision Maker Too

Step up to the challenge of also having decisions that matter in the relationship. Your opinions should form a part of the final decision making both of you have. As they say, two heads are always better than one and so your decision must always be taken into consideration as well. This is something you should make clear.

c) Just Be Yourself

One thing most people find difficult doing is being themselves. Looking good and behaving to the expectation of the other person is more important for them while denying themselves of who they really are.

Once you give yourself up to the expectations of the other person, they may find you inadequate in anything you do and would expect you to put in more effort to please them.

d) Don't Stress Yourself Out

Stressing yourself over your relationship is something that you shouldn't do. It can't be the perfect relationship. And perhaps as it stands right now, it may  or may not last forever. So why go to so much length in worrying about how well it will go?

Worry less but makes sure you are getting the best out of it. However it will end let it be more of a happy ending than a sad one.

e) Feel Free And Be Happy

Be free in your relationship and spend more time making yourself happy. Your happiness comes first and should never be taken for granted. When both partners in the relationship are happy, this happens because each one is happy with themselves. This encourages happiness towards each other.


In Conclusion

People form love relationships to be a part of each others life. When two people are bound by a common feeling of love and closeness towards each other, they feel  a sense of oneness and this keeps them dependent on each for their needs for passion, romance and a willingness to be together.

However the mere fact that they are bound together by their love does not necessarily mean all will go  well. As each of them is an individual with needs and wants that differ greatly from each other, they must come to a common understanding with each other to make the relationship work out.

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